On this episode of The Courage Hotline — The Courage To Stop Censoring Yourself — I’m helping a professional who’s gay courageously bring their full self to work, all while avoiding the need to constantly seek approval from others. I’ve also got insight for another caller on how to get over being shy and experience the fullness life has to offer.

Key Moments

1. [2:34] One of the highest expressions of courage is the courage to be – it is the courage to be yourself.
2. [2:50] Courage is two-faced when it shows up in the workplace, and the aim for both of those two sides is to be ready.
3. [4:09] An unsupportive environment can leave the other side of courage looking beat down instead of glowed up.
4. [5:50] You also have to consider whether your workplace is a place where you will be able to honor and express the fullness of yourself.
5. [6:24] Organizations are made up of people, and if the people within those organizations cannot and do not own their brilliance, then the org is restricted in how much it can grow.
6. [7:57] Where there is risk, there will also be a need for courage.
7. [9:13] We people please to maintain social bonds with the group, and to avoid rejection, judgment, and failure.
8. [10:37] People who learn to control their inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives, which is as close to being happy as we can get.
9. [14:25] For someone who has a personal or professional goal to come out of their shell, start with small risks and build from there.
10. [15:08] We need to understand what the narratives are that you repeat to yourself, how those narratives may have turned into beliefs, and how those beliefs turned into behaviors.

Mentions

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Psychological Safety – Article published by the McKinsey & Company

Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience – Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi

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