On this episode of The Courage Hotline — The Courage To Confront Yourself — one caller got promoted into a prestigious position… that she doesn’t enjoy. Could it be that she needs to confront herself and her beliefs before deciding to move on? Another caller needs insight on how to move forward with an interesting business opportunity. 

Key Moments

1. [3:43] When people need to ask for help, they equate the action with looking or feeling weak or incompetent or needy.
2. [6:36] It is important for you to be honest with yourself in identifying if the “not good fit” or “doesn’t bring me joy” part of your question is coming from a place of self-doubt, and if you felt more competent in the role, maybe you wouldn’t be feeling this way.
3. [12:29] The first thing we have to do with risk is that we have to clarify them; we clarify them so we can calculate them; and we calculate them so we can control them.
4. [13:37] When we are controlling the risk, we are “de-risking” the situation.
5. [14:30] Risks are required for growth. If you and other professionals and entrepreneurs want to grow into the fullness of your potential and power, you have to take risks.
6. [14:56] Your ability to take a risk depends on how free you are to make a choice.
7. [15:47] Lack comes into play when we’re unable to move forward to take worthwhile risks because we lack something.
8. [20:36] As you are considering taking the risk, the experiences from your past and your present that you put into the sample absolutely matter, and this will influence and frame your thinking and maybe your behavior moving forward.
9. [21:31] When you are taking courageous action, it is impossible to access the possibility that comes with courage without also exposing yourself to potential problems.
10. [22:04] It doesn’t always have to be “go big or go home” – it can absolutely be “start small and go slow.”

Mentions

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Recency Bias – article by Adam Hayes, PhD

Sampling – article by Seema Singh, Data Scientist

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