On this episode of The Courage Hotline — The Courage To Be Enough — I’m serving up advice to help one caller check his beliefs about “not being good enough” so he can freely share his gifts at work and in the world.  Author and worthiness expert, Morgan A. Wider, also stops in to share quick strategies on how to increase feelings of self-worth.

Key Moments

1. [3:04] Stop following rules that don’t exist.
2. [4:44] Comparing ourselves to other people is part of being human.
3. [5:29] If you are following rules that don’t exist, identify those “rules” and question them.
4. [6:23] Perfectionism is a broad personality style, and it is characterized by this hypercritical relationship that we have with ourselves.
5. [7:16] Perfectionism magnifies our fear of failure.
6. [7:26] When we fail, we can often feel shame, and we don’t want to bring shame on ourselves because it can damage our social relationships.
7. [7:53] Perfectionism tries to trick you into believing that failure is not just an action that you can learn from, but failure is actually you.
8. [8:42] Embracing imperfection offers opportunities to practice self-compassion, self-acceptance, resilience, and forgiveness; but getting there actually requires a strong challenge to our polarized thinking.
9. [11:26] Unworthiness can manifest when we don’t accept our past decisions.
10. [15:28] Neither your workplace nor the world wants to witness your humbleness at the expense of your greatness. 

Mentions

A Cool Girl’s Guide to Courage: A self-love book mixed with fierce quotes and journal prompts to help girls and young women face their fears and find their confidence and the courage to be enough. This is your courage speaking. It’s time to put your fear in its place and make it behave.

Leadership Development Coaching: The Leadership Development Coaching is for early to mid-career professionals who are eager to level up their leadership capacity and activate their courage to do the hard things. It’s time to activate the courage to be enough and believe in your brilliance. Visit the website and let’s get to work.

The Emotions of Courage – Dan Putman

The Worthy Wardrobe – Morgan A. Wider
Jess Pettitt – Diversity and Leadership Expert

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